Reading the title you may think I’m one of those ‘boys should be boys and girls should be girls’ type people? Well you would be wrong. I have a daughter and 3 sons. My daughter has played with dolls, dressed as a princess and painted her nails but she has also climbed trees, played with cars and pretended to be a pirate. My boys (two of them as the third one is only 14 weeks) do all the usual ‘boy things’ but I have a photo of my teen son (that I won’t show you for embarrassment) in his sisters princess dress and just the other week Harry was playing with a doll, pushchair and ironing board.
I definitely don’t think boys should be boys and girls should be girls, I dislike people that do think like that (I don’t hate them because I don’t have the time or energy to care what they think) but I also am not keen on the parents that seem to force that boys should do ‘girls’ things and wear pink and that girls should do ‘boys’ things. You know the ones that post it everywhere that their son is playing with a toy kitchen and have big long sentences how they’re bringing their boys up to be sensitive, kind, know how to cook etc. Well that’s great but I prefer to just let my children grow up how they want. There are boys that like ‘girls’ things but there are also boys that don’t like those things and you know what? Both kinds of boys are great.
And then there’s the parents with daughters that don’t seem to want their girls to be girls. They see a princess book about prince’s and they say how they want their girls to be strong, independent and to not want their girl/s to think they need a man. Well I would love my daughter to be a confident, intelligent and independent women. I don’t want her to think she NEEDS a man to make her happy BUT I also am quite happy for my young daughter to hope to find the right man to make her happy, to dream of a prince that will sweep her off her feet and make her feel like a princess. What is so wrong with that? It doesn’t mean she won’t be a strong independent women. Even they love to dream.
I believe that my children will all make their own choices in life (obviously with some guidance as they’re children) they don’t need it forcing upon them.