Lately I have found myself feeling guilty. Sometimes I feel sorry for my older two for me having Harry. I obviously do not regret having Harry and the kids love him, as he does them but sometimes I feel that it’s pushed them aside a little. For instance when we ask them to watch Harry for a short while while we do something quickly (while we’re in the house too) or when we tell them to be quiet so we can get him to sleep or sometimes I can’t help them/listen to something they want because I have to deal with Harry. I feel so guilty when I think of these times.
We often tell them to stop doing something because Harry might copy as he looks up to them and they should know better at their ages (14&12)
Because I am conscious of it, I think it helps because if Harry cries and I’m not in the room, I try not to blame the older two instantly because I’ve seen this happen with other families and it’s unfair.
We make them do chores, as they should, but obviously Harry gets none, so again I feel guilty.
They have both told me that they feel pushed out before so I am always trying to just have 1 on 1 time with each of them (I need to do this more) I have tried to explain to them that I don’t favour any one child over the other, but Harry is at an age where he needs me more than they do.
Do you think I have reason to be guilty? Am I putting too much pressure on them? Any of you have this too?
p.s sorry for rambling, I just wrote it as it came out 🙂