We’ve heard those words far too often from our tween (soon to be teen) lately. It has been driving me insane! At school the system of warnings and telling’s off are known as ‘stages’ stage 1 being a little telling off to stage 5 being before exclusion.
He has started getting regular stage ones, two’s and a couple of three’s and has even had a stage five!
But of course, it’s not his fault. The teachers are against him, his friends are bad influences etc etc. I’m by no means excusing him but he hasn’t exactly done anything terrible in a sense. I mean he hasn’t sworn at a teacher, beat up a pupil, set fire to a classroom, skipped lessons or anything like that BUT it’s still not acceptable.
The things he has done is eat/drink in class, put a pencil under a pupils bottom (this one is definitely not acceptable and he was punished) got into a fight, giggled in class, not listening, back chatting, things similar to this.
All of those things really frustrate me and I am really disappointed in him but the thing that get’s to me the most is he takes absolutely no responsibility for any of it, he always thinks it’s someone else’s fault. We’ve explained to him that no one forces him to do any of these things, it’s always his own choice, so ultimately is his fault. He eventually does say it is his fault but then ends it with but…..
What can I do? I’ve tried everything I can. I think our parenting is pretty good, we’re not wash over’s but not too strict either. We punish what needs punishing but also give them plenty of opportunities to show us how mature they can be. Is it just his age? My teen daughter didn’t go through any of this, so is it just a boy thing?
Please do comment if you have any advice, it would be much appreciated 🙂