Hello all, I hope you all had a lovely Christmas and are ready for the new year ahead.
This week I am proud of my older two children. They had been acting very spoilt a few months before Christmas and started to just expect certain things. We continued to tell them that they shouldn’t have those kind of attitudes and if they did, we wouldn’t be buying them mobiles for Christmas.
The problem with this was that neither have a phone and haven’t for months because of them breaking. Because it’s winter we haven’t let them out a lot because we couldn’t contact them and vis versa. So really it was a case of them wanting them and needing them. But they continued with the behaviour saying that they knew they would be getting phones even if we say they’re not.
The OH and I were so annoyed with their behaviour that we told them they were not getting phones at all this Christmas and we didn’t want them spoiling the day when they realise they haven’t got them. And we had in our minds that we were not going to get them either. Until a week before Christmas we saw some reasonably priced ones (£59 each) and we felt bad (suckers) plus we know they do need them to feel safe and for us to feel confident letting them out.
But we decided when Christmas day came we were going to make them think they didn’t have them and not give them until Christmas evening. We said if they were miserable, we wouldn’t give them them at all and wait until new year but if they were good we would give them.
I am so pleased to say that they did get to a point in the day when they genuinely thought they hadn’t got them and they were really good and just accepted it and were happy with everything else they got (even though that wasn’t as much as normal because they are more expensive now) I am extremely proud of them for this because I really thought they would act spoilt and ruin the day, but they both surprised us and it was a lovely day. And it was so lovely when we surprised them in the evening with them, they were so excited and happy and I felt they learnt a lesson and appreciated it much more when they thought they weren’t getting one.
Let’s hope it’s the start of something new 🙂