Loud n Proud

Living with teen girls is not easy. We have arguments, her father and I are regularly stressed because of her BUT we are proud of her.

Sometimes we are focussing so much on how frustrating she can be, we forget to tell her how proud we are.

On Saturday we went out for a mother and daughter shopping trip. I really enjoyed her company and it was totally stress free. I don’t do these day’s often enough and I hope to change that.

Today she stressed us out again because she asked if she could do her homework on the laptop and when we checked her, she was on Facebook. Something she keeps doing regularly (hence why I was checking) we told he again that if she had just asked we would have said she could go on for a short while, it’s just the fact she does it and we question how much homework is actually being done.

Anyway she went upstairs in a mood and came down later with a letter. I don’t know if any of your children do the letter thing but our eldest two always have. They come down with a letter begging for us to change our minds or to say sorry. These letters always make us laugh. Today’s letter was different. She still had the odd immature remark (as is to be expected with a 13 year old) but all in all it was a very mature letter.

She mentioned that she may make bad choices in life but they are her choices to make. That she will tell me if she needs me and I should leave her until she asks. And she knows its difficult for me sometimes but she struggles sometimes too. It really made me think and on this occasion I am going to write her a letter back. I’m just going to take my time with it and be careful with what I write.

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7 Responses to Loud n Proud

  1. I can only imagine having a teenage daughter. I was an awful teen for my mum and can only hope O doesn’t go the same way! But you need to be able to trust your daughter in these small things, so that you will be able to trust her with the bigger decisions she’ll eventually have to make x

  2. Oh wow, not sure how I would respond to that letter if I received it. My initial thought is that she’s still a child and it’s a parents job to protect her from mistakes until she’s old enough to deal with the repercussions herself. But I do admire her for writing it in the first place, very brave.
    Oh I hope my boys take it easy on me when they hit their teenage years

  3. Caroline (Becoming a SAHM) says:

    Aww I love this post, must be so hard but its also so important to tell them you are proud of them. Must be so difficult learning the balance of giving them freedom and making sure they are safe and behaving! I love the letter writing idea, and I think writing her a letter back is a fab idea xx #loudnproud

  4. suzanne3childrenandit says:

    What a very mature response. Sounds like you’re doing everything right Sharon. I know exactly how you feel and my (almost) 13 year old does the letter thing too. Initially I thought it was a cop out and felt hurt that she felt she couldn’t speak to me face to face but someone told me to just embrace it as that is her way of communicating. Sometimes our teens really are helpful in our learning journey as parents, aren’t they?

  5. mummydaddyme says:

    Oh bless her, that is sweet. I remember I used to write many a letter to my Mum when I was a teenager and in her bad books. 😉 I can’t imagine my girls being teenagers! God! 😉 x

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  7. Having the letters is a great idea. Gives older children a chance to think as they write and maybe share more than they might face to face.

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