I talk a little bit about Tom on my blog but not a huge amount so today I thought I would share with you how we met. Firstly because it’s a nice story and secondly because I want to show that sleeping with someone on the first night is not all bad. Obviously I don’t encourage it for all women on a regular basis (even though that is quite up to you if you do) but just that it’s not always a mistake.
I wont go into my whole life (It would take too long) but just before we met I was a single mum to two children. I had been single for a couple of years and wasn’t looking for anyone, I was quite happy on my own with my children. A guy I had known for a few years asked me several times if I would date him but I just wasn’t interested.
One night I was around my friends house and she asked if I wanted a night out with her. I hadn’t been out in years, my children were visiting their nan’s for a week (who lived 4 hours away and who they have not stayed with again since) so I agreed.
Saturday night came and we had been out an hour or so, enjoying ourselves. The guy who had asked me out several times text me and I said I was out and he said he was too so we agreed to meet up (I wasn’t interested, we were just friends). It was myself, my friend, said guy and his friend Tom.
We all chatted and had a great night and even though quite drunk I really got on with Tom. I told him about my children and it didn’t scare him away and we ended up going back to my place together we had sex (and he said he loved me) and went to sleep. The next day I thought would be awkward but it actually wasn’t. I felt like I had known him ages. The next day he even met my mum and step dad! That was a little awkward 🙂
While the kids were away I manged a couple of dates with him. We went to the cinema, had a meal out and even a hotel stay.
After that things moved quite quickly. He met my children and we went on a few days out together. The kids loved him and he was really good with them.
A couple of months later we were engaged and had rented a house together.
11 years later and we have two more children, another house move, lots of holidays and are more in love than we have ever been. We have been through some really rough times but they have only ever brought us closer. When I think back now I can’t believe how fast we got together but I just knew it was right. We know each other inside out and I know we will be together for the rest of our lives.