Recurring arsehole!

So I have spoken before about my OH not being the biological father of the teen and tween and their biological father is useless and never bothers with them but occasionally keeps popping back up.

I last wrote this post in March last year. Since that time, they have not seen or heard from him. They got nothing for Christmas (no card, phone call, presents) nothing! And it was teens birthday on the 12th Jan and she received nothing too.

Teen told me that she had messaged him over Facebook and got a reply. This is the conversation…..

Teen:

I had a nice birthday thanks for asking .

Him:

Don’t b silly C. I could not say happy birthday coz u blocked me x

I miss u and J everyday

Teen:

Really?

Him:

Yes really

Teen:

Would you come and see me at my prom or before that x

Him:

Give me a date and I will c wat I can do x

Teen:

June not sure what date yet x

Him:

Ok darlin love u x

Teen:

Aw

Him:

U not going. 2 say it back then lol

Teen:

Nope after you not seeing me for several years and not getting hold of me, it’s really upset me.

Him:

It’s not my fault u was taken away from me

Teen:

You could still see me. Mum don’t mind you seeing me, she wants me to be happy

Him:

Let me no some dates and I will book time off work x

Teen:

ok

 

 

Seriously she is 14 not 4! She’s not stupid. So there is no way of saying Happy Birthday than through FaceBook? And he can’t possibly see them since I moved 185 miles away 11 years ago. And I have lived in my house, that he knows the address to, for 7 years! What a complete arsehole! Sadly he still seems to have some sort of hold over her. I really wish he would just piss of completely and not keep popping back. He literally has nothing to do with them, no cards, phone calls, letters, nothing until teen starts these little conversations up. It gets her down so much. I really wish it didn’t and it does frustrate me sometimes how much it does (I don’t show that) I wish she could just forget him and it not bother her, but I know it’s not that easy. Do you think taking her to see him (if she wants to) will help? I just don’t know what to do any more.

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7 Responses to Recurring arsehole!

  1. Kim Carberry says:

    You could take her to see him but it sounds like he isn’t too bothered….Invite him to visit and then it’s’ up to him if he lets his daughter down and your daughter can see what he’s really like!
    I have an arsehole like that in my life…..I have been dying for nearly 2 years to blog about the idiot he is but I know he reads my blog and he keeps threatening me with court so I don’t want to write anything he can use against me…..The last email from him he demanded Becky sends him a Christmas card AND present but he couldn’t send her one as he doesn’t like sending things through the post….He only gets in touch on his birthday, fathers day and Christmas….lol

    • That is a good idea! What are bloody arsehole yours is too. She must send him something but he can’t back? What a cheeky shit! Cannot believe some parents can be like this, I would do absolutely anything for my children (as I know you would yours) no idea how they can just not care x

  2. becky says:

    Oh what an ass! I’m so lucky with Ellies Dad he sees her every half term and will mostly always come and pick her up and drop her back he never expects us to do, we will sometimes take her or pick her up too. And he doesn’t kick up a fuss if, like this half term I want to have her back early so I can do something with her. Its all very mutual and nice and whilst I wouldn’t say we are friends we dont hate each ither either lol! It makes me so sad to read story’s like this it can cost less than a £1 to send and buy a card, idiot!! Oh well its him who misses out on them Sharon one day when they realise and he realises that he hasn’t been the dad he should have been xx

  3. David Ball says:

    You never know you might get a Wile E Coyote moment and someone will shove him off a cliff or drop an anvil on his head! Here’s hoping!

  4. Laura says:

    So hard, I guess it’s the whole biological father thing that gives him a hold over her. I think suggesting he visits is the best idea. What a selfish idiot 🙁

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