Rewarding teens

Lately I have struggled to get the kids to help around the house, they have been cheeky and not abiding by our rules so I decided something needed to be done!

I saw something on the internet where a mother wrote a list of chores to do to earn points to get out of being grounded but I wondered if it could work as a reward chart too.

So I got to work making it all up and put it all on a cupboard downstairs that can be seen every day!


I had to think carefully because I didn’t want to make getting the points too easy and having to pay out huge amounts at the end of the month but also didn’t want to make it impossible.


I also had to think about rules because I didn’t want them taking advantage of it. For instance they are both (particularly tween) is terrible for cleaning their room but it being a mess the next day, so one rule is that the bedroom has to be clean for a week before you receive the points.
We’ve also added that a chore can only been done if it actually needs doing, no doing an easy job every day, just to add points!
I thought I best include a consequence for bad behaviour too, so 10 points will be taken away.
And lastly I had to add that half a job will result in you only getting half points because I can’t count the times they have said they’ve done a chore but it’s been doing very badly.


As you can see we have given them a few different targets to achieve as it gives them a choice and more responsibility.

The third bored is their names and the points they have gained. I have told them that only I can add the points as I want no cheating (sometimes they forget I was their age once)


And of course last but not least, my loo roll pen holder! Seriously considering being a craft blogger 🙂

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24 Responses to Rewarding teens

  1. Michaela says:

    hmmm, I’d be wanting a LOT more than 5 points for cleaning the cat litter tray!! It’s the job I hate most in the world and one of the things I guess I took for granted that my dad did …bleugh its horrible!! x

  2. LM says:

    500 points, for a fiver?!? Sorry, but if I was one of your kids I’d be telling you where to go for that. That’s not a reward, it’s an insult.

    • We have worked this out very carefully. Remember this is over a month so if they do the washing up every day that is 600 points there so very easily achievable!

      • LM says:

        Achievable, yes – worthwhile, no. You’re basically telling them their work is of little value to you.

        • I have two children (plus a toddler that gets a little a month) so £20 a month is a lot to pay out in my opinion. Plus when they leave school not everyone is guaranteed a high paying job, they need to learn to start from the bottom. So far the children are happy with the scheme and it’s working well for us all.

  3. I think that is very reasonable. As a teenager I was expected to do things like that for nothing, so to earn a few pennies is fantastic, and teaches them that you do need to work hard for money.

    • Thank you. I never had pocket money either but OH did so we have compromised on our parenting. They always want new things so it helps us around the house and they feel they have achieved something.

  4. Lyndsey says:

    I think this is really good Hun, I think back to my childhood and had to earn my rewards too, gets us ready for the real world otherwise it’s a huge shock! Start from the bottom, too right! As soon as you’re old enough to help with family chores I think you should. Well done! X

  5. Kim Carberry says:

    I think it’s a great idea and very fair!! I think I might try something like that with my two!!

  6. sarahmo3w says:

    This is a fantastic idea! I struggle with my own workload of paid work plus housework and taking the kids to all their activities, but haven’t found a way to get the kids to help me. This sounds like a really good scheme which strikes the right balance between helping them get points but not making it too easy.

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  8. Pinkoddy says:

    Best of luck. Our ten year old has just made a list of chores for us as we are struggling with getting them all helping.

  9. OMG! I love it!!!! I cant wait for the day my two are old enough for a chart like this!

  10. Brilliant idea, i love it, i must look into doing something like this, my boys get away with far to much. X

  11. kaowen2013 says:

    This is such a great idea. I have started trading iPad time for chores, which worked well at first but they soon found ways to get around it (Can I pick up this sock off the floor and get the iPad? etc) so the tips you’ve given here will be a great help at making it work better. (found this via MumofThreeWorld’s roundup)

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