Should boys be boys and girls be girls?

I just want to write my view on the boys being boys and girls being girls debate that always seems to be going on.

I have a 14 year old girl, a 13 year old boy and a 3 year old boy.

I say I have never chosen girls things and boys things but that would be a lie because when my daughter was a baby/toddler I chose lots of pink and pretty dresses and dolls etc and for the boys I went very blue and chose cars etc (and still do) but having said that as my older two were very close in age, my son did come into the bedroom of a morning dressed in a princess dress announcing he was pretty or pretended to be his dollies mummy and we didn’t stop that, whatever made him happy. But he did get to an age where girly thing were yuck and also my daughter got to the stage where boys things and boys were yuck (I wish she still found boys yuck but sadly it’s “we’re in love” age) it happens. I see so often of parents shocked that their child has declared something is ‘boyish’ or ‘girlie’ as they never encouraged it. No you didn’t but kids will do their own thing. If anything I would be more proud that they have a mind of their own.

Anyway I now have a 14 year old daughter that has chosen p.e (she loves sports) and hair and beauty at college.

I have a 13 year old boy who is totally into ‘boys things’ but his favourite colour is pink and also spends as much time in front of the mirror as his sister.

And a 3 year old boy that adores diggers, tractors, cars, basically any vehicle (but especially diggers and tractors) but will go to the shop and choose the pink kinder egg.

You see it’s something that will happen no matter what you do. You can’t mould your children to like what you want them to (well you can but that’s just cruel) you just have to let them do as they want and they will soon decide for themselves.

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4 Responses to Should boys be boys and girls be girls?

  1. David Ball says:

    All very true! xx

  2. Donna says:

    I agree completely. It all happens regardless! LP adores pink and I have never been in the least bit pink and girly towards her! x

  3. I have a son of 23 and a daughter of 20. They always shared toys…Lego, the kitchen, the dolls house. My son has a very mathematical brain ( Degree in Electronic Engineering) but also plays and composes music. He loves to wear bright colours and Paisley shirts. My daughter is not the least bit girly, eschewing sparkles and pink from a very early age. She mostly wears black and white. She has a logical brain and did Media and Photography at College. She also plays guitar, having taught herself both normal and Bass.
    I feel I have a son who’s in touch with his feminine side and a tomboy…they are who they are, I’ve just given them the opportunity to decide what they’d like.

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