To breastfeed or not?

So I have been asking myself the question, shall I breastfeed baby boy when he’s born or not?

This baby will be my fourth and I haven’t experienced breastfeeding yet. I am not anti breast or pro bottle, I am in the category of whatever is your choice, is best for your baby. As long as he/she is being fed who cares?

Anyway when I had my first baby I was 18. I went into hospital (alone) because I hadn’t felt her kick as usual, they monitored me and gave me a couple of tests and then I was rushed to a bigger hospital and hour away and told I had pre-eclampsia and needed to get her out quickly. It scared the life out of me! When she was born it was pushed on me that I should breastfeed. I tried but was poorly, young and didn’t really get any advice other than I should do it, so I gave up.

My second baby came 18 months later and again being young, I was put off with the first experience and didn’t even bother trying.

My third baby came when I was 30 so I was more mature and knew my mind more. Sadly towards the end of my pregnancy I was in hospital weekly (sometimes more than once and one time for 7 days) and my labour was 30 hours long and traumatic and didn’t end as soon as he was born so Tom had to give him a bottle and we just carried on.

I suppose I could have tried harder with all 3 but they’re all healthy and happy so that’s all that matters.

So lately I have been having dreams of me breastfeeding baby boy. But I am still unsure. The reasons I am unsure are

  • When you have a baby your breasts are so painful and the thought of someone sucking them scares me a little.
  • Tom is unsure about me doing it because he enjoys the bond of feeding too. I know I could express but a few people have told me it’s not easy to express.


Of course there can be lots of complications and I may not have the choice but I am a planner and organizer and I just would like to know. I may just wait until after the birth and see how I feel.

Any advice?

About teentweentoddler

Hi, I am a SAHM to 4. Two teens, a preschooler and a baby. This is where I share some of our ups and downs of life.
This entry was posted in pregnancy, Uncategorized and tagged , . Bookmark the permalink.

6 Responses to To breastfeed or not?

  1. I don’t think that it needs to be one or another and this was a trap that I fell into actually. Why not combination feed – some breastfeeding and some bottles and you can have the best of both worlds – also it makes breastfeeding less of a pressure – good luck xx

  2. Honesty i would just wait and see. I expressed for two weeks and had to cup feed due to a stubborn baby.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *