Iv’e been unsure if I should write this post or not but I think I need to to get it out of my system.
My mum has never been great but she has really pushed it this time. I can’t believe what an awful person she is being.
Let me take you back. My OH has a full time job working nights for Tesco but he is very talented at building things and gardens and basically everything :)
Anyway my mum wanted her back garden doing. It looked a total mess so needed a total makeover. Tom agreed to do it for £150. Really really cheap and not enough but he agreed because it’s family. He said it wouldn’t be done really quickly because he had a full time job and she was fine with that.
Tom did a few things he bought £50 in hardcore, took some tyres to her house (15min drive) to make a feature, he cleared her shed, trips to the tip etc. We were at their house one day and Tom was going to complete it when this happened so he left and came home to comfort me.
After that we all got really ill (you know the bugs that never disappear) and Tom was so ill he had to have a month off work. We heard nothing from my mum in all this time.
We were out one day and she text me ‘I want my money back’ that’s right no how are you or the kids, nothing! So we got into an argument. I never once got angry I just kept repeating that she’s not asked how any of us are, she doesn’t ask to see the kids etc etc
All she kept saying was she wanted the £150 back.
We stopped taking for months again and then she text’s again ‘I want my money back’ but this time the tween had received no birthday card or present.
Again we had a text argument all the time with me saying how crap a mother she is and that all she cares about is money. She always has been like that. Not once did she acknowledge that Tom has done a lot of work, more than a £150 worth and that she has not asked how any of my children or myself are.
Again we didn’t talk for ages and today I got another text, this is exactly how the conversation went……
Mum: I want my money back friday
Me: yes again myself and kids are fine, thanks for asking
Mum: I will ask you how you are when I get my money back
Me: And that just shows you what I have said before, all you care about is money! Why are you a bad mum? Take a look at yourself! If you don’t see that you are doing anything wrong then we are all better off without you.
Mum: that’s fine if that’s how you feel give me my money back and do what you want
Me: your not owed any money
Mum: yes I am
Me: not from us so go sniffing around someone else for money
Mum: yes I am I paid £150 to do my garden and it wasn’t done
Me: Tom did £150 worth of work
Mum: No he didn’t he just made it a mess give me my money or I don’t want to know you any more. You don’t do things like that to your mother
Me: Ok that’s fine, I don’t want to know you any more. You also shouldn’t do things like this to your daughter and her children.
I am not giving her any money. She want’s £150 back and that is definitely not happening. There is a lot more to this story. She has upset me on more that this occasion, never apologising. In the texts before I said that she never asks if the kids are ok and she hasn’t seen them in months and he reply was that she shouldn’t have to ask to see them. If we are not speaking, then she doesn’t bother with my kids, ever! For instance she didn’t bother with the tween’s birthday and I bet she doesn’t with Harry’s next week either.
She is the worst kind there is! For instance she bought my step sister’s little girl a christening present, they feel out so she gave the gifts to some of her other grandchildren. My sister lives a couple of hours away and she never see’s her chidren. My brother (who the sun shines out of her butt even though he’s an arse) has moved near my sister. She call’s my sister to ask about my brother and talk about his daughter but never asks about my sister and her kids.
I also had a miscarriage while all this was going on.